And what about the husband do does none of these things. Maybe a couple of times a year he’ll say, “You look nice” but that’s it. Says he will refuse to sign anything. But he doesn’t get that there is truly a feeling person underneath. My husband never does anything like this. I am just the one who cleans his clothes and makes his dinner. August 28, 2016 at 2:47 am ... feel almost sick to my stomach as i am now realizing that i married a narcissist who also has anger issues as well. Linda says. Love Cards on Holidays, but Never Anything Else. Gets pretty crappy. If you show them the way, you'll both be able to get a lot more enjoyment and Prior to this he was an amazing giver. Many partners buy and wrap their own Christmas gifts every year with their spouses taking credit as if … This isn’t new – he’s always been like this. If I never get anything else from my husband, that is fine with me. What if your husband didn't get you anything for Christmas, could that be a sign your husband doesn't love you? My husband isn't too great with birthdays. Unhappily married men often say they feel as though their wives are never satisfied with anything they do, said Kurt Smith, a Northern California-based marriage and family therapist who specializes in counseling for men. My husband never celebrates anything, not valentines day, mother’s day. I honestly never even expect him to spend money. Don't think your heavy sighs and the comments made under your breath are going unnoticed. I have a lot of anger about it. My boyfriend and I have been dating for two years now. Our lives is just between school, work and kids. It is as if he doesn’t think that there is anything unique or special about me. Men rarely have any idea of how to show affection or share intimacy. Possibly. But, it's hard for my husband. I feel dead inside. 37 years married in October 2017. No romantic getaways or fixing things or breakfast or …..well anything? Because God has blessed me beyond measure with a man like him. He would maybe get a cake with family growing up. my husband never comforts me when i feel sad nor does he ever apologize when he’s done something wrong on his end. Some of the best gifts I received in the beginning of our marriage cost him nothing, but they were always my favorite because it showed he cared about me and spent time thinking about me. Reply. It tickles me to death when my husband buys me something, but I don't expect any material things from him. In other words, your partner never asks for your help or expects you to do anything for the relationship. Birthdays are just another day. We never go on a date. Or even to celebrate if one of us passed an exam. I have to actively resist the urge to compare “my husband” to “her husband” as the photos go live on Facebook and Twitter. 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